My big dream in life is to have no ‘big dreams’
There I said it! Turning 30 means being hounded by that dirty question ‘Where do you see yourself in ten years time?!’. Over the past couple of months, I’ve been asked that question by dozens of unsuspecting acquaintances and strangers (my friends know me too well to ask that of me 😉 ).
I do know what I DON’T want – I don’t want to own a fancy car, I don’t want to be at the elusive top of the corporate ladder, I don’t want to have lots of designer shoes. I promise I have nothing against any of those things, they just don’t float my boat! I prefer battered Royal Enfields, moustache loafers, and socks with pugs on them to shiny cars or expensive bags. Yes I’m painfully aware of the fact that I’ve just trampled over all the chances I had of ‘making it big in life’ as far as conventional parameters for being ‘successful’ are concerned 😉 Oh well! Let’s go on to what I DO want shall we?
To be honest, I don’t really have an answer for that question. If you’ve seen our sorry excuse for a bucket list on Bruised Passports, you would know what I’m talking about. I know bucket lists are a big thing these days but Vid and I have never really had one – it’s probably because our list of things to do keeps vacillating as we continue to change. Every experience teaches us something new and with new experiences come new priorities.
So, I can’t really compose a bucket list but I can tell you guys some of the highlights of my life from the past couple of decades. They’re not necessarily earth-shattering events – in fact some of them are downright trivial – but they are important to me. Here’s presenting 8 things that made me happy in the past couple of decades 🙂
#1 Turning 30
Can I just take a second to rant about stereotypes and jokes revolving around not asking women their true age. Seriously? I don’t get why someone would be hesitant about acknowledging their age – shouldn’t it be the proverbial feather in one’s cap? I’m glad some amazing women, including our friend Leah from Leah Travels, are with me on this one.
I’m pretty kicked to be 30 – I’ve been at play for 30 whole years and had truckloads of fun. Who is to say the next decade won’t be happier, bawdier, and merrier?
#2 Death Cab For Cutie live in concert
I’m more of an ambient electronic music (any other Bluetech fans here?) and old-school rock kinda gal but there’s something about Death Cab for Cutie that melts my heart and warms my soul. I just HAD to watch them live when I realised they were going to be in London. Watching them live was everything was I’d hoped for – the band stayed true to its Indie roots and chose an intimate venue and Ben Gibbard was sheer perfection *sigh*
#3 Completing my PhD
Studying and teaching English Literature puts a smile on my face. So I was really kicked about completing my PhD in English Literature and Visual Arts at the ripe ol’ age of 26. I totally broke into a jig when I laid my hands on the degree and coerced everyone into calling me ‘Doctor’ for a while. Ooh yeah!
Even today, there’s nothing I love more than curling up on a sofa with a dog-eared copy of Foucault’s Discipline and Punish or Márquez’s One Hundred Years of Solitude and a chilled beer or a cup of Vid’s gourmet coffee 🙂
#4 Colouring my hair fuchsia
One fine day I got up and coloured my hair (yep ALL of it!) fuchsia along with one of my closest friends (hey San if you’re reading 🙂 ). We stained our entire bathroom pink in the process but we did have a lot of fun prancing around, pretending to be woodland nymphs, so I can’t complain. I don’t have much to say about this, except that it made me happy and that’s how it came to deserve a mention on this list. Simples 🙂
#5 Meeting Vid
How could I not include this on a list involving happiness? It might have been 16 years since I first met Vid but he manages to make me smile and reach for the light at the end of the tunnel every single day. He’s generous, he’s compassionate, and he’s fun. Most importantly, he can be coerced into doing ANYTHING ( I repeat anything!) if I pull a puppy face – this includes midnight runs to the supermarket for fudge ice-cream. Basically he’s an all round munchkin 🙂
#6 Exploring 40 countries
40 might seem like a big number but it’s an irrelevant one. Like most people, I started out wanting to see as many countries as possible. But over the years, I’ve realised that it’s travelling that makes me happy, not the number of countries I’ve been to. I’ve come to relish slow travel and prefer exploring 10 cities in one country over fleeting stops in 10 countries. My favourite part about travelling? Finding hidden beaches, playing with snow, stumbling on tiny tapas bars, meeting new people with countless stories to tell, and exploring dilapidated buildings.
#7 Bruised Passports
This is a no brainer. Admittedly, it was our friends who first persuaded us to start penning a blog. After much rumination, Bruised Passports was born. It’s been just over a year but Bruised Passports has become such an intrinsic part of our life. It’s an ode to everything we enjoy, so we absolutely love putting new content out there every week. I cannot tell you how excited we feel on reading your mails about road trips in Croatia, attending the Malaga Feria, or crazy trips to Iceland planned after reading our posts
We hate the words ‘fans’ or ‘followers’, so we literally feel like our family has grown every time we get new readers on Facebook, Instagram, or our website. So yeah, hearing from you guys makes me one helluva happy bunny.
#8 My plans for the next 10 years
Don’t be fooled by all this lighthearted banter because I have some ambitious plans for the next 10 years 😉 I want to see loads of new countries, discover some good music, find that perfect hammock by the sea, and sprinkle happiness everywhere (I have a secret recipe which I can’t divulge because it involves illegal substances – just kidding.. or not..).
Most importantly, I want to keep my family and best friends as close to me as possible. If I had my way, I would keep my closest ones around me 24X7 and shower them with sloppy kisses and bear hugs every day (nauseating I know 😉 )
If you’ve made it through my wordy monologue and are still reading this blog entry, then you’re my favourite kinda reader and you make me very happy 🙂 We rarely write personal posts but do leave us a comment below if you enjoy reading them.
Are you new to Bruised Passports? Read our ‘Who Are We’ section to read a bit about the elves that keep this website going 🙂
Want to know more about us? We answered all your questions in an article – Click on to read more
We’ve been pinning all the places we’ve been to. Have you seen the Bruised Travel Map yet?